Selling your home can be an emotional decision. Even if you are selling for all of the “right” reasons. Some of those “right” reasons could be to purchase a larger home that you need for your growing family. You might be selling to shorten your commute or move to a better school district. Moving, even for all of the “right” reasons can impact your child. Adults can feel the stress of a move and navigate the process. But kids may not ever have experience a move and may feel like their whole world is about to be turned upside down. How is a parent to deal with these emotions and help kids make the adjustment? Here are some helpful tips to make the process as smooth as possible.
Helpful tips
- Don’t assume that they will not care. Even if your child is not particularly sentimental, they can have strong feelings about selling the family home. They may have concerns about leaving the home that they have made great memories in. It may be the only home they have ever known. Your child may just not like change. Let your child voice their feelings about moving. Your child’s feelings matter.
- Be sure to talk openly about the move. Involve your kids in the process. Talk to them about what they would like in a new home. While kids will not have the final decision, remember to take into account their feelings. Explain your reasons for moving, in age appropriate terms. Share with them the benefits of moving. Be transparent but firm to help manage expectations.
- Don’t spring the final decision on your child at the last minute. Talking about the move is great, but make sure that you have help your child sort through their feelings before the sign goes in the yard. While it is important to have empathy and understand, at the end of the day it is your decision. It is okay to prioritize your needs as well as the needs of your family as a whole.
- Seek professional support if necessary. If your child is particularly anxious or resistant, consider involving a family therapist. Sometimes having a third part to talk to can make things easier.
Let your agent know
It is a good idea to make your real estate agent aware of how your child is feeling. An experienced agent can often help smooth the way forward. They know how to get young children involved in fun ways. Your agent may also be able to offer helpful hints for helping older kids feel heard and ease their concerns. Lestel has a pamphlet available: Smooth Moves. Real Estate for Your Kid’s World. It is helpful tips on moving with kids of all ages. Ask her and she can provide you with a copy.
Selling your home when children are involved can be challenging. It is wise to talk to your child as soon as possible and involve them in the process. The more your child feelings included the more likely they are to be on board with moving!